When is the time to leave the table?
We all enter a relationship with hopes of having them to spend the rest of our lives with, but have you ever thought about the point when you’ve had enough in the relationship? The point when it’s time to stop. Maybe, you have an answer already at the back of your mind. The signs and gut feelings that you have been ignoring for months or even years just to avoid the heartbreak because you are emotionally invested. Easier said than done, so you just stay; but you have to leave.
Leave when respect is no longer being served. Abuse in all forms is disrespect. It’s when they don’t recognize your efforts, they dismiss you, manipulate, cheat on you, aggressively confront conversations, or even when you are not reciprocated. These are all deal breakers. These are not part of the ups and downs of what a relationship should be. It can be just as damaging and abusive.
Leave when you keep breaking up and getting back together. Forgive and forget? Until when? How far long are you going to tolerate this set up when you both tried everything, yet nothing seemed to work to fix things? You need to recognize the patterns and when you do, be honest to admit it to yourself. That it’s not getting better; accept situations for what they are.
Leave if you’re not happy. It’s better to admit you’re no longer happy than having to hide all of your frustrations, hurts and fears or even worse, trying to seek happiness in other people. It’s when you feel you’re acting like a different person around them because of some certain circumstances that you have to put up with. Relationships should be uplifting.
Leave if you’re ready. We all have our fair share of heartbreaks in a relationship. No one is perfect but none of these should be tolerated. Take a breath and ask if things are worth repairing. Maybe you love them but are they still worth the fight? Be honest, at least to yourself. It’s better to lose yourself in the world, with all of its life lessons, than to lose yourself in love, in another person. The biggest mistake you can make is to keep waiting when it doesn’t change anything. Muster your courage and leave the table. Walk away and never look back because nothing feels better than leaving the person who can’t treat you right. If they weren’t meant to be in your life, nothing in this world could make them stay.
Leave so there is room for growth. Leave so you can learn to value and focus on yourself more. And lastly, leave with grace and respect with hopes to outlive the chaos. Believing that wonderful things can happen when you put yourself first. Take it as an apology that you owe to yourself, so you can find courage to paint outside the lines you once drew for yourself. The joy you thought you lost will find its way back to you. Be sure of yourself because no one else is going to do it for you so leave.
